Considering a first look? Let's talk about it!

For years, it was considered bad luck to see your groom before walking down the aisle. But did you know that tradition actually stems from the days of arranged marriages? Back then, it was believed that if the groom saw his bride before the ceremony and wasn’t impressed, he might call the whole thing off—yikes! Thankfully, times have changed, and so have our traditions.

Enter: The First Look.

A first look is a private moment between the bride and groom before the ceremony—where you see each other in your wedding attire for the first time. While it’s not for everyone, there are so many beautiful reasons couples are choosing to have a first look. Here are my top 3 reasons why this modern tradition might be the perfect choice for your big day:

1. It Calms the Nerves

Weddings come with all the feels—joy, excitement, and yes, a few butterflies. One of the best ways to calm those pre-ceremony jitters? Seeing your person. A first look gives you both a quiet moment together before the day really begins. It’s your chance to hug, laugh, cry happy tears, or even exchange private vows or letters. It helps you feel grounded and present before walking down the aisle.

2. It Makes the Timeline Smoother

One of the most practical benefits of a first look? A more relaxed and efficient timeline. When you see each other before the ceremony, we can knock out:

• Bride and groom portraits

• Wedding party photos

• Most (if not all) family formals

This frees up time after the ceremony, meaning you’ll spend less time posing and more time celebrating with your guests. It also keeps the flow of your day stress-free and gives you flexibility if the schedule runs a little behind.

3. The Photos Are Breathtaking

Ceremony spaces—especially churches—are often dimly lit or not ideal for natural light photography. A first look allows your photographer to choose the most flattering light and location, which makes a huge difference in your final gallery.

And the reactions? Absolutely priceless. Whether it’s happy tears, big smiles, or an emotional embrace, the first look gives you genuine, unscripted moments you’ll cherish forever.

Is a First Look Right for You?

At the end of the day, your wedding is your day. Whether you stick to tradition or embrace a first look, the most important thing is that it reflects what feels right to you and your fiancé. Talk to your photographer and planner to decide what works best for your timeline and your personalities.